Helpers

It's hard for me to admit when I need help.  At first I tried to pretend I had it all under control. I try to pride myself in being capable and strong, but while John was away, I felt quite the opposite.  I tried to set everything up, so I'd be able to handle it all.  I put the kids in after school care three days a week, I hired John's niece to watch the kids on Tuesdays, the day John usually covers the afternoons and I made sure I was getting exercise.

Cath and the kids

Unfortunately, the day to day grind of being totally organized and on top of it all started to wear me down.  I wanted other people to figure out that I was struggling without me having to ask for help.  But life is busy for everyone and my situation was no harder than what a lot of people have to deal with all the time.  So I did it, I advocated for myself and asked for reinforcements.

First up, was a visit from Art and Peg.  The kids were thrilled to see them (it had been since April) and they had a fun time catching up with Chris and Catherine and helping out with afternoon and morning duties.  Peg brought dinner and we all went out one night.

Another break came when I headed down to CT to attend my dear friend, Greer's father's funeral.  Bumpa and Grandma were amazing.  They brought the kids to a science museum on Saturday so that I could catch up on grading and have some time to myself, babysat the kids on Saturday night so I could catch up with Greer, and brought the kids to a park on Sunday while I was at the funeral.

Having some time to myself was so helpful and necessary. Seeing old friends reminded me of how important it is to nurture friendships.

Upon my return, I found a dinner left in my fridge from a dear friend and a message from one of my dearest buddies.  Bo was visiting his mom and asked if I'd like a visit.  It was elixir to my soul.  Bo was a bright spot when I needed one the most. 

And even though I had just seen my parents, they came back.  I had to work an inservice day and the kids were off.  They offered to help out. 

Friends from far and wide called, came by for dinner, and offered to help out with the kids.  In the end, I needed to ask for help and it was so worth it.  I hope I can keep my eyes wide open and anticipate when friends are in need  It's always so great to get a boost from friends and family.